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Depression – one in eight of us have it!


Over 13% of women aged between 16 and 34 have depression, and that figure is expected to rise as our lifestyles become harder to cope with.  It is also expected that a massive 64% of women will suffer from depression at some point in their lives and it’s now the most common reason for visiting your GP!

But what is depression?

Symptoms can include extreme tiredness, not being bothered to go to work, tidy the house or pay the bills, a feeling of complete hopelessness, being unable to see any positives, crying constantly, loss of sleep and weight loss.

If this sounds like you and these symptoms have affected your life for a period of a month or longer, or if they keep returning on a regular basis, then you may have depression.

We women expect a lot from ourselves – we want the amazing career, the nice house, the car, the designer wardrobe, the busy social and the ‘perfect’ partner – which can all become a bit overwhelming and put us under unnecessary pressure. And the recession has just made things worse! Experts believe that as a result of recent rises in workplace stress and redundancies, depression and depression like symptoms are dramatically increasing.

As women, we often feel ashamed or embarrassed talking about suffering with depression; we see it as a sign of weakness and so suffer in silence. We feel like we should be upbeat at all times, supporting our partners, our kids and our friends, so often we find it hard to admit when we’re not coping.


Please remember that depression is not a dirty word and that even mild depression left untreated can become severe, so it’s important to get help.

 Try talking to friends and family about how you feel.
 Avoid drugs and alcohol – they will just make you feel worse or mask the problem.
 Exercise a bit – it can actually boost your mood.
 Don’t be afraid to change the things in your life that you don’t like for things that you feel would make you more comfortable.
 Try calling an anonymous helpline like The Samaritans on 08457 909090
 Google it – just type ‘depression self help’ in Google and you’ll be amazed at what you can find.  Just reading about other people’s experiences can be supportive in its own way.
 Book an appointment to see your GP but do some research beforehand and know your rights. A good GP will talk to you about your sleep patterns, exercise regime and food habits as well as anti-depressants. Take someone with you so they can ask the right questions. Try to book a double appointment so you get 20 minutes with your doctor so you feel like you have enough time to be listened to.
 Investigate natural herbal remedies like St. John’s Wort or acupuncture therapies.  They can work for some people but ask about how they affect other prescription drugs you may be taking such as the contraceptive pill.

REMEMBER – you are not weak, unusual, a bit mad or alone – there are a lot of us out there, please don’t suffer in silence any longer.


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  1. Lynn says:

    I’ve had depression several times through the years, whether its been relationships, deaths, accidents and it all builds up into one big massive ” why am i here and i think i’ll just end it all”!! The doctors solution is to prescribe anti depressants or palm you off on a councillor. Never having taken the drugs, i’ve been to a few councillors in my time and quite honestly they were useless. Mainly due to them being the ‘wrong kind of councillor’ for the situation. I went to college and passed a councilling course with flying colors, probably because i’ve been in the places most depressed people are, i understood the course. I found comfort in it and realised life really isn’t that bad. Also realised that you have to bring yourself out of the mind set, no one can do it for you, they can only advise you and steer you to a place you feel moderately happy with yourself. I still occasionally get depressed but know that life is always worse for someone else than for you at that time.

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